Relationships... as defined by me!

I was talking with my friends a few evenings back and the discussion was revolving around relationships. A lot of my friends are single so they turn to the non-single ones when it comes to advice and just general discussion about relationships. In this discussion I came to the conclusion that I am horrible at relationships. It’s mostly my fault because I am very demanding. Though a lot of my friends tell me otherwise, my demands are actually very logical and justified. I believe that every relationship is driven by the conversation and relative intellect of the people involved. I need to have decent conversations with my better half otherwise I feel bored and totally disconnected with her. The conversations act as common grounds. If we cant talk to each other then what are we doing together? Doesn’t this question bother people? I have seen relationships that involve conversations limited to the usual romantic implications and the confessions of undying love. I have seen relationships, which are driven purely by lust and even their total opposite where there was no physical contact ever! What is it that defines a relationship? Is love or attraction enough to make a relationship work? Shouldn’t there be a common intellectual ground? Yes sex is good but beyond a certain point you realize that you can get sex everywhere for free or paid. So what would make a relationship? Isn’t it the fact that you can talk to your partner about anything and without any fuss or worry about misunderstanding? Isn’t it the feeling that when nobody will listen to you there will be always someone back home who will listen to what you have to say and give equally back? Conversations are not just about sharing words and dialogue, it’s about sharing lives and I want more from it. I don’t want simple “ hmmm” and “ how was your day?” crap. I need more than that. I need my partner to be able to keep me interested in her not just physically or romantically, but intellectually. After all it’s all in the head isn’t it?